Living with Soul Loss

soul lossDo you know what soul loss in our society is, how it feels, how to recognize it in yourself and others?

If you are suffering from soul loss, know that all is not lost, that there is a chance for a better life. For once you realize what is going on, you can deal with the chaos that is created from it.

Knowing this will put the power back into your hands to help you make the decisions you need to make for yourself and others.

There are varying degrees of soul loss. It can range from the extreme emotional disconnection that psychopaths experience, to what one might call the nagging discomfort of feeling ungrounded – of never being able to find one’s place.

Here we will look at the many ways soul loss can show up in society.

The Psychopath
Perhaps the most famous example of soul loss is the psychopath. Have you ever looked into the eyes of – a stranger, a friend, a co-worker, or a family member, and felt that there was no one home – no warmth, no real humanity, no feeling in that person that you could connect with? For more on this see: Understanding the Psychopathic Personality

The Fragmented Soul
Soul loss results from an encounter with extreme and recurrent trauma or abuse, during which the person is vulnerable and has no resources for dealing with it, such as happens with very young children. It refers to the most vulnerable parts of a soul splitting off and leaving the main part to deal with the trauma. As the trauma continues to be repeated, more and more of the soul leaves or becomes fragmented. In some cases, if the person is lucky enough to re-establish a feeling of safety and love in their life, the soul parts can be persuaded to come back.

Putting the Power Back into Your Hands
We can be sure that at some time, we all have come into contact with someone who is dealing with soul loss. For example, you can live with someone for years, who never seemed to have any deep feelings. There can be many reasons for this, all originate from abusive, traumatic life experiences, some of which may have been experienced so early in life that there is no conscious memory of them. Other abuses were so horrific that they have been suppressed. Coming into contact with “the soul less ones” in today’s world is becoming more and more common.

If you are living with soul loss in yourself or others, know that there is a chance for a better life. And that starts with beginning to gain an understanding of it. For once you realize what is going on, you can deal with the chaos that is created by others or decide to seek help for yourself. Understanding will put the power back into your hands to help you make the decisions you need to make.

The Two Sides of a Being Human
The French philosopher and palaeontologist, Teilhard de Chardin said:

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience.”

There are two aspects to being human: the body part and the soul part. The body could conceivably continue on without a soul, going through the motions of life on automatic with the mind or intellect in control. But the fully human experience that we are all meant to have, includes a soul part which brings in the aspect of being able to give and receive love, and to have compassion for others. Without the soul part of the human experience, the color is missing in life. There is no joy, no peace, only a sense of emptiness deep inside.

What does soul loss feel like?
When a person lives with soul loss, they usually feel an inexplicable inner dissatisfaction, an inability to feel happy. The body is aware of an imbalance, and is constantly trying to compensate. But it can never find that balance without the soul part.

This inner turmoil, lack of peace, or personal torment that never seems to end, can drive the body to seek relief in many aberrant ways such as drug addiction, illegal activities, a reckless lifestyle, even suicide. It depends on the individual.

There is an essential loss of personal power and balance that is felt in soul loss. As a consequence, soul loss can open the door to physical or mental illness, because the system is not whole.

How to recognize soul loss
Soul loss is not an easy concept to grasp, especially if you haven’t had any experience of it yourself. But it’s worth the effort to get a handle on this, if only, to avoid getting hurt by those who are living with it. In fact, you could be their only link back to sanity and peace.

Different Expressions of Soul Loss
Soul loss occurs across all levels of society. It is important to note that not everyone will lose their soul under similar circumstances in the same way. Some people will take a more active approach to dealing with abuses. They may develop bipolar personality disorder, or split off multiple personalities to deal with the abuses and horrendous circumstances they are exposed to in early life. Others can develop forms of self-mutilation.

For an interesting slideshow of what Bipolar disorder is see: Slideshow: Understanding Bipolar Disorder.

The causes of soul loss are so varied that it is impossible to describe all the ways it can happen. It depends on the individual’s strength of character, the community resources available to them, their personal courage and resourcefulness, stubborn determination, or a strong will, the love of others, luck, the maturity and awareness of the individual, whether they are consciously aware of what is going on in their life, and their belief in their own power to take action.

More and more in our society, we see people who are rude, arrogant and indifferent to the plight of other human beings. This can open the doors to take that dysfunctional person down the slippery slope – to other forms of personal chaos.

Ways You Can Lose Your Soul

  • It can happen when, over time, the person has compromised so much, that they move so far away from their core values and beliefs, they don’t know who they are anymore.
  • It can happen when a person has been subjected, as a child, to ongoing mental/emotional abuse from family members, or a trusted member of the community.
  • It can happen when a person has been forced to engage in a lifestyle that goes totally against their soul, such as happens when a person is under mind-control.
  • Sometimes a person will have consciously taken decisions that have led them to that place.
  • Other times, it happens so gradually that the person is consciously unaware of the consequences of the decisions they are making, until it is too late, and they find themselves trapped with no way out.

For example, some physicians find themselves in untenable situations, where they’ve entered the medical profession with compassion in their souls, and find the day to day realities so horrific and unbearable, that they become traumatized, and deeply depressed and dissatisfied with life. Although, this is not always the case, a doctor faced with this situation, may lose his/her soul. It’s not commonly known that between 300-400 doctors commit suicide in the US each year!

Personal Betrayal or Shock
Soul loss can occur as a result of a personal betrayal that shakes the foundations of one’s beliefs in self, others and/or society in general. Lack of protection within the justice system, or the failure of government programs designed to protect children, can result in soul loss in children in government care.

The result is that when they eventually leave the system, they are caught in the bind of living a tortured life, with no idea what is wrong with them, or how to remedy the way they feel.

  • We see this in those who were the victims of government/religious native residential schools, who have lost their culture, their native language and their souls.
  • We see it in foster care where children are bounced from one foster home to another, with no sense of safety, and no one to bond with or love them.
  • We see it in families where the children were mentally, emotionally and/or sexually abused.
  • We see it in the children of military families, who grow up and join the military, are deployed to war and develop Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome.

How do you decide if you or someone you know may be experiencing soul loss?
Soul loss is recognized as the single greatest cause of premature death or serious illness by traditional forms of medicine such as shamanism, and native healing circles, yet it’s not even mentioned in our Western medicine.

The closest Western Medicine has come to recognizing this disturbance, is in psychology where the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) describes a condition of fragmentation of the personality, which often leads to dissociation. Officially, it has been labelled Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID). This is where several different personalities seem to emerge as a way to cope with the challenging parts of a person’s life, which the person feels inadequate to deal with.

But even when the reason for the fragmentation is long gone, the person can still be left with this disordered way of coping with their life. There is no known cure for DID in Western Medicine.

The Symptoms of Soul Loss
In this short video: Dr. Hank Wesselman, an American anthropologist and Shaman touches on The Symptoms of Soul Loss.

Signs of Soul Loss
Having some of these signs, manifesting over the long term in one’s life, may be an indication that the soul is missing or fragmented.

  • Inability to remember whole parts of your life
  • Sudden onset of apathy or listlessness which cannot be shaken off
  • Lack of enthusiasm, or ability to feel joy in life
  • Personality missing or barely there
  • Inability to receive or give love
  • Chronic negativity, depression
  • Addictive tendencies
  • Suicidal thoughts.

Such vacant spaces in a person’s psyche are open invitations for illness to show up, eg. viruses, bacteria, negative thought forms, emotions and beliefs about self.

Be aware, that those around you with jealous, vindictive, critical, complaining tendencies can spread their poison to you, and need to be avoided, especially, if you feel you have a fragile psyche, which is easily influenced by others. Such abuse when internalized and accepted as part of the self, can damage the soul, and allow illness to enter and take up residence. These are symptoms of loss of personal power. No wonder a soul may choose to flee when it experiences this happening, and sees no way out.

3 Causes of Spiritual Illness
Here is another short video by Dr. Hank Wesselman illustrating how disease can develop from a life lived in fear, disharmony and soul loss.

Is there any hope for the one who has lost their soul?
When the circumstances have reached the point where the soul is gone or fragmented (i.e. parts of it have gone), it’s not all bad. The soul leaves to go to a safe place, where it can maintain it’s integrity intact. True this soul loss leaves the person unstable and vulnerable. But the good news is that a soul can also decide to return if the conditions are right, that is, if it can see that the life of the individual is returning to a semblance of normality, and/or there is a genuine desire for change that the soul sees it can contribute to.

The important thing to remember is that if you suspect that you or a loved one is suffering from soul loss, or soul loss related illness, there are options that can be helpful in returning the soul to the individual.

Soul retrievals are available through:

  • Shamanic Practitioners which you can find in your area on the internet.
  • Native Healing Circles.
  • Inner soul work is available through counsellors who have an interest in working with the Inner Child. This is useful to make sure the person can retain the healing so the soul does not leave again.
  • Quantum Healing Hypnosis can also be used to bring back a lost soul, and restore balance and healing. Usually the practitioner will also have training in shamanic soul retrieval.

Books on Healing Soul Loss
If you’d like to read more about this:

The Journey to the Sacred Garden: A Guide to Traveling in the Spirit Realms by Hank Wesselman
– takes the reader on a spirit walker’s journey to get in touch with the “mysterious, compassionate forces of the inner spiritual realms, who are willing to help us”.

This book provides explicit instructions for crossing the bridge between our reality and the other dimensional realities where the soul resides. Using this book can even lead you to an experience of self-empowerment without the need for an intermediary. It shows how to “explore the nature of reality, as well as the mystery of who we are and what we’re doing here”. The book includes a 60 minute CD, that contains music to help you shift your consciousness into visionary modes of perception, which will allow you to discover and bring back profound secrets and wisdom that may be used for your needs.

Book: Spirit Medicine by Hank Wesselman – provides a look into a very sophisticated indigenous medical system that details the role of spirit, consciousness and love in healing

Book: Soul Retrieval: Mending the Fragmented Self by Sandra Ingerman
– shows how to retrieve your own soul, and heal yourself of the symptoms of soul loss

For An In-depth Personal Program of Study: Learn about how to do a Soul Retrieval under the guidance of experienced and knowledgeable teachers at The Four Winds.

Interview with Deepak Chopra – Dr. Hank Wesselman

Other Sources:

For those suffering with Depression
Free resource:
The “Self-Care Depression Patient Guide is a 44 page booklet that can be downloaded to your desktop. It can help you make important changes in the way you think and act. Describes Coping Strategies to Get Control of Depression.

For a more detailed post on Depression see: Are You Depressed? Do You Know Someone Who is Depressed?